Quiz! Is your sex life affecting conception?

Quite a few of our followers, clients and website visitors have mentioned that they enjoyed the quiz we did a few weeks ago. So for today’s episode of The Fertility Show, we’ve decided to do another and this one is about your sex life and conception.

It’s for you and your partner to do together. I want you both to get some paper and a pencil, sit down, and watch the video or answer the questions below. Count up how many yeses you get!

For those who would prefer to do the quiz without watching the video, all the questions and answers are below.

  1. Has your sex life suffered since you started trying for a baby?
  2. Is your sex life less adventurous and fun now that you’re trying for a baby?
  3. Do you plan sex rather than let it happen spontaneously?
  4. Are you regularly too tired to have sex?
  5. Does it seem like kissing and cuddling always has to lead to sex?
  6. Do you tend to limit sex to the time when you and your partner are most fertile?
  7. Do you have sex less than twice a week or even less frequently?
  8. Do you find it harder to get aroused since you started trying for a baby?
  9. Is your relationship suffering since you started trying for a baby?
  10. Do you regularly avoid sex out of frustration, resentment or anger?
  11. Do you find it difficult to talk to your partner about your feelings regarding sex now that you’re planning a family?
  12. Women only, do you provide your man with lots of details about your menstrual cycle?
  13. Has the passion gone out of your love life?
  14. Women only, do you expect your man to perform at the drop of a hat?
  15. For men, do you feel resentful around the fact that your sex life has changed since you’re trying for a baby?

And now for the answers!

If you scored 0 to 3, generally you have a healthy sex life. Although you’re trying for a baby, you’re still getting a lot of enjoyment out of sex.

If you’ve scored 4 to 7, you will have a few issues with your sex life, such as the frequency of sex might be quite easy to fix. Others such as arousal and expectation on demand, you’ll have to work on together

If you’ve scored 8 to 13, there probably are a lot of issues that you will need to address about your sex life and your relationship and they way you communicate to one another.

What to do next?

I sit with couples every day who are trying for baby and no answer to that quiz will surprise me. What I see more and more is that when you do start trying for a baby, it doesn’t take long for your sex life to become mechanical, the pressure to go on and your relationship to suffer.  

It’s really important that you sit together, you communicate and you work out how you can get some more passion, fun into your sex life, and into your lives generally.

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What happens when you come for IVF at the Zita West clinic

Whenever you’re considering an IVF clinic, it’s only natural to want to know the ins and outs of how a place works and what to expect.

Today, I want to tell you what happens when you come for IVF at this clinic.

What we really, really do well here is a whole integrated and holistic approach, which takes into consideration diet, nutrition, lifestyle, stress, and which gives couples a plan of action in order to prepare for IVF, and also to have support when they’re going through IVF.

This week on The Fertility Show, I’d like you to meet one of our IVF nurses, Sophie Williams, and we’ll be discussing what happens here at the clinic when you start the IVF process with us.

Quiz! Are your cycles affecting your fertility?

This week on The Fertility Show, we’re going to do something different: we’re going to do a quiz.

I’m often talking about how not all women’s cycles are the same, and some might find it hard to pinpoint their fertile window – the days within the cycle in which pregnancy is highly expected or possible.

Cycles vary from month-to-month, but what this quiz is trying to do is pinpoint some of these areas that you may have problems with when it comes to trying for a baby.

So grab a notebook and pencil, watch the video below and I’ll help you unravel whether your monthly cycles is something that might be affecting your fertility – and when you need to seek help.

And here’s the quiz in written format too

  1. Are your periods more than 35 days apart, or irregular and unpredictable?
  2. Do you find that the length of your menstrual cycle varies when you’re under stress?
  3. Are your periods very close together?
  4. Have your periods ever seized for several months?
  5. Do you suffer from unusual heavy periods?
  6. Do you have any mid-cycle spotting or bleeding?
  7. Do you suffer from painful periods?
  8. Do you regularly take pain killers for period pains?
  9. If you’re over 35, has your menstrual cycle become shorter?
  10. Did your mother have an early menopause?
  11. Are you over weight or under weight?.

Okay. Now, add up the number of yeses you’ve got.

If you scored 0 to 3: It maybe that you’re experiencing a few problems with your cycle, but it’s unlikely to be something that will impact your fertility.

If you’ve scored 4 to 6: I’d advise seeing your GP to be sure that look more closely at your cycles. It could be that there are issues that are affecting your chances of conceiving.

If you’ve scored 7 to 11: The chances are that you really will need to seek help, and have proper investigations into your cycles. Do go and see your GP. 


How to get cycle savvy

I’ve always tried to push my clients to be aware of what’s going on with their fertility, and particularly tried to help them learn how to understand their menstrual cycles. When you’ve been on the Pill since you were 16 and don’t come off it until your mid-30s, it is very hard to know what a normal cycle is! Sometimes, it just takes getting to grips with the facts to make things clearer and easier. Having even a basic understanding of a natural cycle can optimise your chances of conceiving naturally or, if you go down the IVF route, help you understand what is happening both naturally and artificially in the cycle.  

So how can you become cycle savvy? Start by going back to basics and asking the most simple questions.

Q: What is the menstrual cycle?

A: The menstrual cycle is a complex interplay of hormone that have to be in balance each cycle so that an egg can be matured, released and fertilised.

Q: What factors can affect it?

A: Weight, stress, medication and diet can all affect the menstrual cycle, causing periods to become irregular or stop altogether.

Q: How long does it normally last?  

A: Between 24-35 days or more, but cycles may become shorter as you get older.

Q: When does the menstrual cycle start?

A: Now this is the part that many women get confused about.The menstrual cycle starts on the first day of a woman’s period, but this does not mean the first time you get slight blood spotting. The first day of the cycle is the first day of the fresh, red bleed. Any spotting belongs to the end of the previous cycle.

Q: What happens during and after period?

A: A woman’s period tends to last between 2 and 6 days, sometimes longer. After that, most women will be aware of a time when they feel quite dry at the vaginal lips. During this part of the cycle, the cervix is tightly closed with a sticky plug of secretions that prevents sperm from getting through. When the woman no longer feels dry, she may become aware of a slight stickiness or a see a white or opaque secretion. These secretions nourish the sperm, forming channels to swim up and allowing some strong sperm to potentially get through at this stage.

If you’ve got questions about your own cycle, then get in touch!

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Consultations are available at our Clinic in London or via Video Conferencing from the comfort of your own home.

Connect with us

Call us on 0808 196 4060 or email us at clinics@zitawest.com

And for weekly tips, advice and wisdom on natural fertility and IVF, subscribe to our Fertility Show on YouTube.

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