Those of you who read my blog regularly will know that I’m a huge advocate of holistic approaches to fertility. A holistic approach essentially refers to making little changes to various aspects of your life, and remembering that fertility is whole body event rather than something that just happens in the ovaries or in the fallopian tubes. Every woman and every couple has weaknesses in different areas, but I like to focus on 5 in particular. Read more
Today we’re going to be talking about the phenomena of baby readiness. Are you ready to have a baby, or do you keep delaying it, or should you wait to be ready before you try to conceive?
Everybody is different and everybody’s circumstances are different, and some of the women I see in the clinic do unfortunately end up regretting the path that they took. Read more
Performance anxiety around fertility is a perfectly normal and natural feeling. The way in which some women constantly track and monitor their fertility can put pressure on their men, especially around the time of ovulation. The woman focuses on her fertile time, her anxiety goes up, she tells her partner to ‘come home immediately’, his anxiety goes up, and so on. Sound familiar?
As I said, this is common and understandable, but can unfortunately cause a lot of upset, frustration and arguments within the couple. This week on the Fertility Show, I share my key tips on what to do when trying to conceive gives your man performance anxiety:
And as always, here is the cheat sheet!
- Focus on the sperm not the egg, because the egg lasts for 24 hours and the sperm lasts for 3-5 days.
- Don’t feel like you need to tell your man every little detail about your cycle – at the end of the day, it’s a passion killer!
- Take the pressure off one another! Try talking to each other properly about how you can get past this hurdle together.
- For a man to be able to perform, he needs passion, and scheduling your sex life and giving him specific times when he needs to be home can ruin that. Try to come up with a plan together on how to keep this time fun and romantic.
- For many men with performance anxiety, it’s present for a short period of time such as during the time that you are trying for a baby. But for others, it can be a sign of something underlying. Don’t be afraid to go to your GP, just to make sure everything is okay.
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I’ve been an acupuncturist for 25 years now, and so I’ve always been a huge believer in its benefits for fertility and IVF.
I think what’s difficult for some women however is that there’s a lot of conflicting advice out there – it really is hard to know what to believe.
But I’ve got news for you straight from the annual fertility conference in Helsinki: a study has found acupuncture can in fact double the success rate of IVF.
This week The Fertility Show is all about acupuncture and IVF, and why I think it really can make a difference:
So how can acupuncture help?
It may help with blood flow to the ovaries which means more oxygen, more nutrients and more help developing the follicles. It may also help with stress and beta-endorphin release, which means a greater sense of relaxation and wellbeing! It really can give you that bit of extra support that you need, and be that one thing that you have control over to help improve the process.
And how does acupuncture work?
It is a form of Chinese traditional medicine that involves the insertion of very fine, hair-like needles into channels called meridians. These are invisible channels of energy that relate to different organs in the body. The form of treatment is individualised – every person has a different type of treatment because we are all different! But there are very similar channels that are used in that treatment that will help with blood flow to the uterus and the ovaries, and that will help manage your stress.
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Over the years, I’ve helped so many women that I often wonder if there is any way I could bottle up all the wisdom we have all learned and present it back to new patients to help them on their own conception journeys.
This week, in The Fertility Show, I got a little bit closer to that dream when I asked four ladies who between them have over 30 years experience in trying to conceive to tell me the ONE THING they wished they had known or done differently in their fertility journey. I expected a huge variety of answers. Read more
So many of the young women I see at the clinic in their thirties have gone on the pill at fifteen, and don’t come off until they’re in their 30s and starting to try for a baby. It’s very easy for them to get quite panicked about their cycles and their fertility returning. So today, I want to answer the common questions that I get asked about coming off the pill.
As always, here is your cheat sheet so that you have all the information to hand
“I’m thinking about coming off the pill do I need to let it go out of my system for the next three months before I start trying for a baby?” The answer’s no. When you first come off the pill you should try for a baby as soon as you can, because some studies show that your fertility is better in the early months when you first come off the pill. Don’t waste time letting it go out of your system.
“How long will it take for my period and my cycle to return when I come off the pill?” Although many women can get pregnant quite quickly, for others there are delays and it’s not unusual to have cycle disturbances for six to seven months, and cycle irregularities as well.
“Am I more likely to have polycystic ovaries when I come off the pill?” This is quite a difficult question to answer, because so many women have been on the pill for 10 to 15 years. When you’ve been on the pill that long, sometimes it can mask certain underlying factors that you don’t know that you’ve got. Some women may have polycystic ovaries when they come off the pill, because that would most likely be because they had it anyway but without realizing.
“If I’m trying to chart my fertility following the pill what can I expect?” When you’ve been on the pill for such a long time, a woman isn’t aware of what her nature cycles are. It does take time to get used to charting and noticing secretions and hormonal changes. Just get used to knowing your body and bear in mind it can take up to seven cycles for your ovulation to return to normal.
“When shall I come off the pill? I’m thinking of trying for a baby?” If you’re in your mid-thirties and you’re thinking about baby, come off the pill straight-away and try, because on average, it can take eight to twelve months to conceive. A miscarriage isn’t uncommon. It’s really important that the minute you start thinking about having a baby you don’t put off coming off of the pill.
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