It’s not uncommon when you’ve tried for a first baby and got pregnant really quickly, to then struggle to conceive your second and third. This is known as secondary infertility and many women don’t ever expect this to happen because pregnancy occurred so quickly and so spontaneously the first time.
In today’s episode of The Fertility Show, I’m talking about secondary infertility and how to cope….
And as always, here is your cheat sheet so that you have all the information to hand as well.
Stop panicking about the gap.
The first thing I very often see is a panic about the age gap between children. Many women start worrying that their second child won’t be in the right school year, or won’t be born at a certain time of year. You’ve got to lose those thoughts because you’re putting lots of hurdles up for yourself. Positive mindset is hugely important for conception.
Ask yourself are you running on empty?
When you ask a couple about their lifestyle very often a woman has gone back to work, there’s a baby in the bed, you’re not sleeping, therefore you’re not having enough sex, and you’re exhausted. You’ve got to look at what is going on in that couple’s lives and try and come up with a plan that’s going to help them. You’ve got to find a way to build more energy, because you do need energy to get pregnant.
Are you nourishing yourself?
When you’ve had a baby, all of the energy goes into your baby, your partner, and you’re way down the pecking order in terms of what’s happening, in terms of your diet, in terms of sleep, in terms of exercise, in terms of just having a bit of head space. Again, you need to make space for yourself and look after yourself. Really look at some key areas in your life, and try and draw back some energy or manage your time better, or nourish yourself a bit more so that it can happen.
Consider underlying medical issues.
Sometimes when you’ve had your first baby, certain things can happen. There can be underlying medical factors that you haven’t taken into account. Very often it can be a thyroid, it can be that you’re anemic. You may have put on some extra weight so you need to lose weight. Your hormones might not be as balanced as they were the first time around. It’s good to seek help and get checked, especially if you’re older.
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