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How to Cope with Miscarriage

Miscarriage is one of the most heartbreaking and traumatic experiences that I’ve seen couples have to go through. It leaves them feeling anxious and doubtful about whether they’ll ever have the baby that they’ve been dreaming of. And the most common question that women ask me is ‘why did it happen?’ They’re looking for answers; they want to know what they did wrong. But miscarriages are so common and happen to so many women. It is so important not to blame yourself, not to give up hope and to try positively about what to do next.

And on my channel this week, I’m here to help you do just that. Have a look as I share my top tips on how to cope with a miscarriage:

And as always, here is my cheat sheet with all the information that you need:


  • Give Yourself Time It takes time to get over the shock and grief of a miscarriage. You’re allowed to cry and feel upset. You must remember that you’re only human.


  • Don’t Play the Blame Game One of the most immediate reaction after a miscarriage is finding something to blame. I see so many women ask themselves, ‘was it the cup of coffee I had? Was it the glass of wine?’ The answer is no. Miscarriages are just very common and they do happen.


  • Get the Support that you Need Every woman deals with a miscarriage in their own way, so every woman must get their own form of support. Talk to your partner, a friend or a family member. Or if you’re really struggling, turn to your GP to get the counselling that you need.


  • Manage your Mindset Techniques like meditation, mindfulness and breathing can be exactly what you need to help you get through this process.


  • Look at your Lifestyle Try to look your lifestyle and see what little changes you can make to put you in a more positive mindset. Look at your work/life balance, look at your stress levels, try and cut out alcohol – all these changes and can help more than you think.


  • Take Supplements Taking multivitamins, minerals and antioxidants on top your diet is something I always recommend, particularly as studies have shown that Vitamin D deficiency can be linked to miscarriages.


  • Get Yourself Checked Out A whole range of reasons can cause a miscarriage. But checking underlying factors and seeking further investigation can help you assess what next steps to take. If you’ve had two or more miscarriages, there are specialist tests you can take to help you as much as possible.


  • Don’t Give Up This is the most important thing to remember. Keep trying, keep seeking help, and keep positive. There’s still hope.

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