Performance anxiety around fertility is a perfectly normal and natural feeling. The way in which some women constantly track and monitor their fertility can put pressure on their men, especially around the time of ovulation. The woman focuses on her fertile time, her anxiety goes up, she tells her partner to ‘come home immediately’, his anxiety goes up, and so on. Sound familiar?
As I said, this is common and understandable, but can unfortunately cause a lot of upset, frustration and arguments within the couple. This week on the Fertility Show, I share my key tips on what to do when trying to conceive gives your man performance anxiety:
And as always, here is the cheat sheet!
- Focus on the sperm not the egg, because the egg lasts for 24 hours and the sperm lasts for 3-5 days.
- Don’t feel like you need to tell your man every little detail about your cycle – at the end of the day, it’s a passion killer!
- Take the pressure off one another! Try talking to each other properly about how you can get past this hurdle together.
- For a man to be able to perform, he needs passion, and scheduling your sex life and giving him specific times when he needs to be home can ruin that. Try to come up with a plan together on how to keep this time fun and romantic.
- For many men with performance anxiety, it’s present for a short period of time such as during the time that you are trying for a baby. But for others, it can be a sign of something underlying. Don’t be afraid to go to your GP, just to make sure everything is okay.
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